Selfish persons are not capable of loving others, but they are not capable of loving themselves either. Being selfish is not good but being self-centered is worse because you never learn to listen to other people.
Everybody deserves to a chance to reach a dream no matter how impossible it looks. However, some people believe that they might not be able to reach them and that’s why they save all of their resources to themselves just to ease some of the insecurities. A lot of selfish people have unmet expectations which make them feel insecure resulting to fear of trust and lack of control over their lives.
But when someone you have to deal with regularly is consistently self-involved and self-centered, they can make your life miserable. If someone does not care about anyone else, he/she is not likely to be very responsive to you in any way other than evaluating how you can meet their his/her needs. They love only themselves. Selfish people are mean and they are good for nothing. They are concerned only about themselves. They are expecting people to reach out or behave in a manner that suits them.
Understanding doesn’t mean letting them off the hook. But if you can get behind the behavior and discover what motivates it, you’ll have a better chance of responding in a way that might make it less powerful. We often make assumptions about what motivates people but those assumptions are often inaccurate. These people make decisions that benefit them. They don’t give a damn what the impact this might have on others.
Dealing with these kinds of people is not easy but the first step in dealing with them effectively is to better understand what causes them to act that way in the first place. Do not take them personally. We often make misleading assumptions. A selfish person always puts his/her own needs first. The problem arises only when we do things for ourselves at the expense of others. When you make life difficult for others to meet your own ends, then that kind of selfishness is the selfishness that you’d like to avoid. Putting yourself first is not selfish. But thinking about yourself constantly is selfish.
At present, it has become increasingly important for people to think about themselves before others. It becomes a status quo and the basis of the society. There is no need to be distressed by the situation of the modern society. Make sure that you develop a personality which can adjust well to demands of this generation.
In my case, its good to be a little selfish, rather than being completely selfless. When you are too concerned with others and help them when they are in need, you make them parasite and dependent on you. More likely than not, when you need help, no one gives a damn about you.